jvcc wrote:In response to your lady troubles, have you considered sending her a message explaining that you didn't intend for it to be a one-night-stand and that she doesn't need to respond but you still felt the need to make sure she knew? I'm not sure she will see it that way, though, considering she's the one who ended things.
She knows I didn't intend it to be, especially with me trying to continue making the plans the next day. We've re-established contact and she knows, it's just that it's something we both should have been sobered up to before anything happened. She has kids that are in school, she works two jobs, I can't really leave the city with the custody agreement (I could, as long as I stay in GA, it's just that it states that I'm the one doing the transferring, so driving however many miles every Sunday does not appeal to me), so we should have known before it started that it could not work. Me, I chalk it up that we both needed to have sex and we were both handy.
About the same time that I went on that little tryst, I was still talking to another woman who had made it clear that she really was not ready to date, but had said she might be comfortable with a physical-only relationship, as she has a very high sex drive. I mean, she masturbates at least once a day, usually twice, and many nights we called each other up just to listen to each other. I have to say, she has the most amazing-sounding orgasms because her voice is very cute to begin with.
So that was pretty fun for a while, but as she lived with her parents and drove their car, there was really no way we could be FWBs. About that time I realized that while the pseudo-sex was great, I still felt really unfulfilled. Also about that time, she decided that she was definitively going to stay single, that she enjoyed it. I asked her if she would mind if I talked to this girl that friends of mine were trying to set me up with, and she said of course I could. We remained friends and she supports my current girlfriend.
The first girl, we had this amazing chemistry, personality-wise and sexual. There's so many times when we were mutually doing things on the phone that she almost said, "F*** it, I'm getting in the car and coming to your house," to give you an idea. Things were scaled way back when we became friends-only, but recently some things have been rekindled. We haven't started anything back up; we're not sexting or calling to listen to each other, but the sexual and romantic tension is very palpable. Please don't get me wrong, I love my girlfriend very much. It's just that trying to bottle up the feelings, both carnal and romantic, from before is kind of hard, but other than that we have truly become best friends. I've never even met the girl in person. We've sent each other videos and pictures (innocent ones) galore, and talked on the phone (also in an innocent way), but have not had the time to meet. Yet. She's going through some stuff where two of her friends are being taken from her (one of them has turned out to be a total dick and keeps stealing things and the other up and moved across the state the same day he told her he was going), and I've been helping to keep her strong and support her during it, and so she's told her parents about me, and they like that I've been there for her (normally they are leery of her meeting people from the internet, which is understandable), and are fine with her meeting me. The plan is that she will visit on a day where I have the kids. I don't want her to visit so that we can try to do things, I want her to visit because we have become great friends.
Before you ask, my girlfriend knows that I have a female friend and is fine with it. I haven't told her that my initial goal with her was to date her, and all the other stuff, but other than that she knows about her. I've shown her pictures of all of my friends, her included.