James wrote:I don't have especially specific experience, but in general I think the idea is to find a way to spend less and less time thinking about that whole business. That may just happen naturally, but it might help to preoccupy yourself with activities, like JVCC suggested, or with other people. I'd imagine it's kind of like moving on from a break-up, but not quite as painful. One day you'll realize you haven't even thought of it for weeks.
At least, that's my guess, but I'm an idiot who's barely lived a life. I've only ever really had to fall out of infatuation.
Yes, that's the sort of thing I was getting at. I also think that love can sometimes take on the color of infatuation once you've fallen out of it, and that we can get ourselves more worked up about our crushes than people we're in real relationships with.
ntw3001 wrote:Okay I have been hanging in Thailand for two weeks and I should really try and do some teaching work which is the reason I'm here! This bothersome military coup is making the initial plan of doing sneaky work a non-starter, so I need to find volunteer work or something. But I'm so lazy! I do nothing! Someone ought to fix that.
It probably doesn't help that having a goldurned FAN fanning away all night is making sleep tough. And my earplugs ain't worth poopcakes. And I sure can't sleep without the fan on. In two days I'll move into an apartment with air conditioning. That's gonna be an improvement.
Even if you can't teach, could you do private tutoring--paid or volunteer? That seems a lot easier to do sneakily.